A bloke around the corner from where we live has just bought a Porsche Boxter. Black and shiny, it’s lovely. Some people say hairdresser’s car but hey I like it, especially the little poppy-up spoiler on the back. Very cool.
As I drove past on my way home from work the other day, I was admiring it when really I should have been looking at the road, but still rather than crash it made me think about how my point of view has changed with regard to items of desire.
But a few years ago I would have passed this car with a completely different mindset. More than likely I would have secretly despised him for having more money \ success than I and then I would have made myself feel better by convincing myself that I was better than him in some other respect - be it bigger house, better prospects, tasier wife or larger manhood. Yes the green-eyed monster really can be that pathetic.
Some time last year I attended a course and during one day we were asked to write down our feelings with respect to money, success etc etc. and when the trainer went through what the different scores meant, it was very clear that I had quite a different view of money than everyone else in the room. Talk about transformational learning - right there and then, realising how I was behaving, compared to lots of people in the room who inspired me in many different ways, I realised that the way I was behaving was not only unhealthy, but counter-productive to what I really wanted.
Now I’ve talked many times about the conscious and the unconscious, but not using the following metaphor. Imagine the conscious mind as the captain of a ship. Yes ok you can be Jack Sparrow if you so want. Jack Sparrow decides what course the ship takes, he is constantly looking out and deciding the heading. The ship’s company of scurvy pirates and the ship itself are the unconscious mind, dealing with the day to day running of the ship - keeping it afloat and to the best of their abilities, following the course set by Captain Jack.
However, if Jack is unclear about the heading, then the ship must follow the best course it can, and if all it hears is negatives about what Jack doesn’t want, and lots of reasons NOT to go somewhere, then the ship will set ANY course other than the one Jack verbally wants to avoid, even if his statements are affected by the green-eyed monster of jealousy.
So you see the trouble with jealousy is that you are convincing your unconscious that you DON’T want exactly what you DO want, and then you wonder why you don’t get it - yes folks the thinker and the prover are back with parrots and eyepatches under the guise of a poorly timely pirate metaphor.
So perhaps you might find it useful to admire that which you covet and aspire to - send your unconscious mind clear signals of what you WANT rather than what you DON’T, so that your entire self is congruent in working efficiently towards your goals.
That’s your lot me hearties.
